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Sister Amat Allah I understand that it's wrong to interogate him about his past. I've never done that but I don't know if he maybe favors his previous encounters more than me?. I'm so sorry I'm starting to feel bad about it ...Can you please help me understand where he's coming from?. Does anyone have more experience in marriage life this is my first time getting married and my mother only briefly glosses over issues like these ...I feel really trapped if I break off the marriage maybe I left something very precious slip away from me.. but I can't stop thinking about it and it's making me insecure.
Honey, have you seen anything wrong with him at recent time? if not and have only seen good from him then I gotta tell ya that shaytan is a sly fox whenever he sees something khayer and halaal will happen he comes to ruin it by planting doubts and dark thoughts inside of the hearts and minds of Adam's sons and daughters...just see Allah's refuge from his wasswasah and forget about it sweetheart.
whenever you start thinking right away play Qur'aan or recite it after saying Aotho bellahi min ashaytaani irrajeem...
and also, maybe you are thinking that way because of you being nervous and panicked going to something totally new to ya and feeling like you are not ready yet but my precious, it is ok.
Look at our mothers; they had it before us knowing nothing and here we are on earth surface...nothing stopped our parents from loving each others and have us as gifts from Allah...
May Allah make all your worries and concerns fade away and make you two from the best of the most loving couples Ameeeen
what the man wants? he wants what you want; a secure warm house and company, good life, loving and caring spouse, someone who can trust and return to after Allah, someone who can make him feel as whole and safe, as two souls in one body, someone who is understanding and forgiving, someone to make him happy and pleased and live with in Halaal...
when the man finds such wife then he will treat her the best and put her on his head as a crown showing it to others and being proud of wearing it in front of all and she will feel all the love and care from him in shaa Allah...
Humbly, to me my sweet sister; I don't care about others past no matter what it was cause it happened and done and if judging them according it while knowing that they have changed then I am wronging them in a really bad bad bad way...
None is perfect even the best men after Rasool Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) The Sahabah had a bad past before Islam but when they knew the truth and returned to Allah; everything became nothing and they got great rewards from Allah...so, why not learning from our Lord?
to forgive, forget and reward too...
Honestly, if I would be a wife for such brother then I swear by Allah that I won't leave a Halaal thing but do it for him for Allah's sake, would strive to make him need nothing and would sacrifice with whatever just to make him the happiest In Shaa Allah...
After marriage; it is totally a new life for both of you and it is from wisdom to start with a new white page and fill it with all beauty and amazing things ...
No need to end the marriage plans you only need to beat shaytan with the weapons which Allah had giving to His believer slaves and servants(Qur'aan and Thiker) and try your best to let go of past and all what is in it In Shaa Allah...
"And say, "My Lord, I seek refuge in You from the incitements of the devils,
(97) And I seek refuge in You, my Lord, lest they be present with me."
(98)" Surat Al Mu'minoon.
And always remember to make Duaa in your Sujood, O Allah if we are khayer for each other then ease this marriage and bless it, Be pleased with us, please us and help us to please you always and forever but if not then O Allah give each one of us the khayer, bless it , Be pleased with us and make us pleased and happy always with whatever you grant us Ameeeeeeeeeeeeeeeen
May Allah give you both the best of the best, unite you on khayer in this dunya and in Al Akhirah too and make you among the happiest and the best of His servants and slaves always and forever Ameeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeen:statisfie
Wanna know how to please your future husband then search on internet and you will find many beautiful things...just take what is Halaal and leave what is Haraam and whenever you need anything just send me a PM In shaa Allah and will try my best to help ya with whatever :D
Love you for the sake of Allah my dear and beautiful sister and wish you all love in this world and beyond it too Ameeeen
big kisses on your nose and beautiful heart :wub:
Congratulations my love and Don't forget to send me your wedding invitation :coolious:
You take the best care of your precious self...
Leaving ya under Allah's sight, care and protection...
Humbly and with all respect and love, your sister:
Amat Allah.
Wa Assalaamu Alikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh