The unfortunate civilization in the 21st century has made it a norm to have children out of wedlock. It has interestingly turned around the shame associated with having illegitimate children into some sort of achievement which deserves a badge of honor.
The term originated from Jamaican Creole (popularly known as Jamaican Patois/patwah) as ‘baby- mother’ pronounced ‘bebi-mada’. It is only used to describe mothers of illegitimate children so; this implies that there is not a common law of marriage or any form of customary rite but now, it has become a general term for single mothers across the globe.
Why do most ladies nowadays willingly opt to become baby mothers of some undeserving men? What kind of sane woman would hold up her head in high esteem to the baby mama title? I am always saddened when I see graceful women with great potentials beam with smiles when they are tagged with that title. Now, it seems there is pride in being called ‘a baby mama’ than being ‘a proud Mrs.’ This situation mainly occurs when women force themselves on men who are unwilling and not ready to be in any form committed relationship with them. Young women of today proudly post pictures of themselves and their kids and caption them with #lifeofababymama #babymamabusiness; giiirl!!! You need to wake up from your slumber and realize that being a baby mama isn’t a pride or business; it means your life is a total mess. Stop making your life a circus by being and acting like a clown.
Sheila knew Louis wasn’t taking her serious from scratch but she still stuck around him with the silly thought that “with time, he would grow to love her” but it was all a dream. I saw it all and warned her to back out of it but she was too blinded by what she thought was love. She said to me “Nana, Louis told me yesterday that he was ready to go the extra mile with me and I am ready to stick to him throughout this new journey,” I couldn’t help but laugh. She knew perfectly that this guy is known for being indecisive when it came to women; he knows there are a variety of fishes in the sea so Sheila would definitely not be his last. To cut the long story short, Sheila got pregnant and knowing who Louis was I knew for sure that my friend was totally screwed. He said to her in his fake American accent “babes, you know I ain’t ready for this and if it means I gotta put a ring on it then I’m sorry to disappoint you but I can’t. If I gotta settle down anyways it ain’t gonna be with you. You know I’m a hard guy and I gotta get my shine on at all times and I can’t be let down by no ‘baby mama drama’ now.” Louis had indirectly tagged Sheila as his baby mama and that was how it was going to be forever.
Sheila now has a daughter and is always seen on Instagram flaunting her child in numerous photo shoots with captions like #strongerthanever #babymummylove #princessandmummy when in actual fact it should be #imadeafooloutofmyself #itpaystowait.
To my fearless ladies out there, don’t slow your game down by reducing yourself to nothing but a baby mama. If he wants to put a baby in it then there’s got to be a ring on it. Let’s upgrade ourselves so we can get tied down the right way. Don’t cheapen yourself by tagging desperately along with men especially, the married ones. Even if the man involved is a ‘celebrity’, he is still not worth your dignity.
The unfortunate civilization in the 21st century has made it a norm to have children out of wedlock. It has interestingly turned around the shame associated with having illegitimate children into some sort of achievement which deserves a badge of honor.
The term originated from Jamaican Creole (popularly known as Jamaican Patois/patwah) as ‘baby- mother’ pronounced ‘bebi-mada’. It is only used to describe mothers of illegitimate children so; this implies that there is not a common law of marriage or any form of customary rite but now, it has become a general term for single mothers across the globe.
Why do most ladies nowadays willingly opt to become baby mothers of some undeserving men? What kind of sane woman would hold up her head in high esteem to the baby mama title? I am always saddened when I see graceful women with great potentials beam with smiles when they are tagged with that title. Now, it seems there is pride in being called ‘a baby mama’ than being ‘a proud Mrs.’ This situation mainly occurs when women force themselves on men who are unwilling and not ready to be in any form committed relationship with them. Young women of today proudly post pictures of themselves and their kids and caption them with #lifeofababymama #babymamabusiness; giiirl!!! You need to wake up from your slumber and realize that being a baby mama isn’t a pride or business; it means your life is a total mess. Stop making your life a circus by being and acting like a clown.
Sheila knew Louis wasn’t taking her serious from scratch but she still stuck around him with the silly thought that “with time, he would grow to love her” but it was all a dream. I saw it all and warned her to back out of it but she was too blinded by what she thought was love. She said to me “Nana, Louis told me yesterday that he was ready to go the extra mile with me and I am ready to stick to him throughout this new journey,” I couldn’t help but laugh. She knew perfectly that this guy is known for being indecisive when it came to women; he knows there are a variety of fishes in the sea so Sheila would definitely not be his last. To cut the long story short, Sheila got pregnant and knowing who Louis was I knew for sure that my friend was totally screwed. He said to her in his fake American accent “babes, you know I ain’t ready for this and if it means I gotta put a ring on it then I’m sorry to disappoint you but I can’t. If I gotta settle down anyways it ain’t gonna be with you. You know I’m a hard guy and I gotta get my shine on at all times and I can’t be let down by no ‘baby mama drama’ now.” Louis had indirectly tagged Sheila as his baby mama and that was how it was going to be forever.
Sheila now has a daughter and is always seen on Instagram flaunting her child in numerous photo shoots with captions like #strongerthanever #babymummylove #princessandmummy when in actual fact it should be #imadeafooloutofmyself #itpaystowait.
To my fearless ladies out there, don’t slow your game down by reducing yourself to nothing but a baby mama. If he wants to put a baby in it then there’s got to be a ring on it. Let’s upgrade ourselves so we can get tied down the right way. Don’t cheapen yourself by tagging desperately along with men especially, the married ones. Even if the man involved is a ‘celebrity’, he is still not worth your dignity.
Take your time and get hitched with Pride.
It is recommended for mothers to not be “mama boy” or “mama girl” because their children will be a subject of mockery in public. Because, once I too got in fitnah with a non-Muslim Republican woman who poke on me and made personal attack on me and I even responded to her brutally for treating me like peaces especially unfairly. Because she mocked me for merely studying in high school called Anghel Saligny in Bucharest and claimed that I live in 2nd world and she arrogantly priced herself that she is from 3nd world and also worse is that she have made a very annoying claim which is “come to me, but you should know that I live in a gated community” and I replied to her “why the Nar would anyone meet you? Myself even feel happy that I don’t see you. And I don’t care where you live”. She basically used my Quora profile education and assumption just to make fun of me, and she even used “Call you out” as her excuse to justify her unethical behavior!!!!
I do make this recommendation so that none will face the same thing as I faced on Internet.
But any case, that non-Muslim woman was a liar and she attributed falsehood to me. She made me really mad.
I am no angel and do not assume myself to be such - however I do believe that the communal sex idea and Islam's position clarified during the covid epidemic.
The situation proved that keeping sexual relations quarantined saves the planet - but this fact is not only true in times of epidemic, it is also a fact that human bodies contain unique sets of bacteria and viruses, and that the marriage knot tie method is evolutionarily safer - since damaged branches can be repaired or wither out without causing tsunami effexts.
Those who try to promote unbridled communal sex as good and not vice -appear to be very shallow and immature in their method of leadership.
Marriage is more about families and children. Strong families, make strong and cohesive communities. It is not just the husband, wife and children. It is also about the wider family, grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, all supporting each other.
Tragically, I meet many teenagers from broken families, the step dad does not want to support them, and the children can be left to fend for themselves. Sadly, in the UK, when a child gets to fifteen, about half of them are not living with both their biological parents.
Of course, shirk is the ultimate form of destruction of your afterlife. No one is denying it. Shirk is the worst crime any human being committed. It is worse than the following crimes:
1) Murder
2) Rape of women and men
3) Pedophilia or sexual relationship with children
4) Stealing
5) Single mothers
6) Cutting ties
7) Drinking alcohol
8) Listening to music
, etc
Last edited by xboxisdead; 02-27-2024 at 07:46 AM.
Any vise or crime you can think of that humanity can commit shirk is above them all of the worst thing a human being can do. However, I am unsure what you are trying to say here. The main topic is not about shirk. The main topic is about baby mama. Are you trying to water down the crime of baby mama by comparing it with shirk, which any Muslim knows is the worst crime any human can make? Is that to justify baby mama and making it halal? If your intention is that road then you have committed Shirk. By turning Haram to Halal. But if that is not your intention at all then why you mentioned shirk on the topic of baby mama? Anybody who are Muslim, who fear Allah and want his pleasure, would obey his commands and prevent evil and stop evil. Stagmize evil. Because if you don't....then you will live in a world of the jungle. The weak get squished and destroyed or abused and the strong will cause fassaat. Then we go back to the era of ignorance again. Where women are sold as slaves or properties, where girls have no rights and buried alive just like the days of darkness, etc. I mean in the end, as long as you don't do shirk, then technically the rest of the crimes you did in the world could either be forgiven or punished in the afterlife. After your punishment is done you enter paradise. But can you imagine what life would be on Earth in the meantime? People will have to look for laws to bring justice on the world, and we already have it. It is Allah's law. That is why it is here. Otherwise, we humanity will destroy each other. So join us sister and say no to baba mana.....unless you promote it? You are not promoting baby mama, are you?
Listen akhi where I'm from there 2 views in Islam aboutThe major sin of Zina Some say it's just a sin that can be repented from and theSecond group says you become a mushrik Which is my view...
I mean you you can become a mushrik if you do not repent from Zina....
Which is the view I follow
Even though I went astray due to a calamity that affected me from the 2 views ..
You do not become mushrik if you do not repent from Zina. It is guaranteed to be punished in the afterlife if you don't repent and stop as those are major sins that is for sure. You may be in hellfire for millions, billions or even trillions of years. However, you don't live there forever. You may become mushrik if you enjoy the haraam so much that your heart become so harden and black from the sin that you make haraam to be halaal. That is a risk.
Last edited by xboxisdead; 02-27-2024 at 04:59 PM.
However, women who scream they don't need men and men are unnecessary they are in very dangerous line in the afterlife. I would not want to be in their shoes. These types of women are the door for:
1) Zina
2) Homosexuality's
3) Lesbianism
4) Attack the foundation of Islam from its roots
They are also the weapon used by masonries and other evil groups who want to destroy Islam. While they chant, they do not need men and spread fasaat, men out there sacrifice their lives to save lives of others and build society. They are the same group of people who Allah (subhanahu Wa Talaa) will not even look at them in day of judgement. They are the ones in the group who says I do not need you while cannot live without you.
Last edited by xboxisdead; 02-27-2024 at 05:03 PM.
Well I don't think I need to be muslim anymore
If that's how hard it gets ..
Then my whole life is haram
No halal
No wonder Muslims are so hateful ...
Call me a loving sikh girl.
You mean to tell me it is hard not do zina or be a baby mama? You just left fold of Islam right now, because you found not doing evil things hard?! How hard not do something? If you know smoking is bad, just don't smoke. How hard to do nothing? Yet, you have denounced yourself out of Islam because you find not doing haraam is hard? Get back to Islam fast, repent to Allah and obey him. Do it before it is too late. You are aware the person who told you doing zina and dying doing zina you die Mushrik is wrong, right?
Also you are aware that Allah is all forgiving. You can commit sins from Earth to sky and back and all you have to do is sincerely repent to Allah and stop doing these sins and Allah will forgive all your sins...ALL of them. And if you come back and repent again, Allah will forgive you again and again. Allah is all forgiving. You find this hard too?
Last edited by xboxisdead; 02-27-2024 at 05:23 PM.
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